reading all these posts about social skills and read one about “offering help”. the tips include “immediately backing off when the person says no, because what you’re doing may insult/be harmful/be invasive to them” (not verbatim), and I find this really interesting because this is actually a very, for a lack of better words, Western thing to do.
I’ve lived and now live in two different south east asian countries, and this advice is actually not very applicable to the cultures here because it is considered rude to immediately accept an offer here. this may sound weird and even petty to most of you, but here it is common courtesy to say “no” at first. and to make it even weirder, the person offering help is expected to insist on offering help. doing this shows that the person offering help truly means their offer. it is only then the other person takes/doesn’t take the offer.
I’m not saying that the ‘offering help’ advice is wrong; just that every single advice—even something that makes as much sense as this—should be taken with a grain of salt, and should always be considered in context.
also, that cultures (and their differences) are such an interesting and beautiful thing.